What not to do !!! if Appearing. Part 3
Body Language
Positive body language helps to create a positive impact. We all know it and always strive for it, but, sometimes it happens that for some reason or the other at
the end we flatter. Why such happens…
In the context of appearing in an interview, what are the signs of nervousness which can be termed as non-desirable body language or posture???
A candidate comes, sits down and then starts to fiddle with his/her hair, touches the nose, touches or wipes the forehead, looks towards the roof/ceiling while
answering are very common signs of negative body language/ postures which creates a negative impact.
These are signs of nervousness, which is always there for any person during the start / initial phases of an interview. However, the sooner one overcomes such
nervous gestures its better. Coupled with a few tricky questions by the panel, the matter becomes worse.
Albert Mehrabian, Professor Emeritus of Psychology, UCLA, master on the relative importance of verbal and nonverbal messages. His “7%-38%-55% Rule”, for the relative impact of words, tone of voice, and body language when speaking emphasises 55% on Body Language, 38% on the tone of voice and only 7% on the words spoken.
Many literatures are readily available in the market/ world wide web.
The key is to study and practice to overcome the negative signs/ postures.
Body Posture
Sitting neutral, a bit straight is the best as Leaning back may indicate that you are lazy, arrogant, easy going; leaning forward shows aggression, slouching is just worse, lazy. Too much hand gestures are signs of negativity.
Crossed Arms
May mean hostility, closed, arrogance. So, the best posture is to keep the arms either on the side or on the lap. It indicates openness, approachability. Hands on the back or pockets indicates frigidity, arrogance.
Avoiding Eye Contact
Sign of nervousness, lack of confidence. Distracted or upward eye movements suggests lack of confidence in the answer or simply lying. Good eye contact shows confidence, attentiveness. Occasional nodding head on agreement with eye contact makes a desirable positive impact. Beware, not to stare or nod on
everything.
Handshake
Initiate the handshake to show confidence. A handshake should be of comfortable grip, not too strong, not too loose. Avoid sweaty hands, be careful.
Fidgeting
No fidgeting. Fiddling with your hair, adjusting your collar/ tie, touching the nose, wiping the forehead are signs of nervousness, insecurity and creates negative energy. A common perception, people who touch their faces while answering questions are dishonest. Leg wobbling / fiddling, tapping the floor, playing with objects in the table or with pen/ pencil are some other negative acts.
Not Smiling
Not Smiling / Stone Faced does all the bad that is not desirable. A smile is a sign of warmth, comfort, acknowledging and makes the interviewers at easy and creates a pleasant atmosphere.